43 Second Date Tips to make it Awesome!

There are many things to do on a first date, but what about the second? Some couples take it slow and keep it simple. Others go all out with multiple activities over an extended period of time. Whether you like to plan ahead or prefer spontaneity, here are 20 tips for your next date!

  1. • Make it casual but plan ahead. If you’re looking forward to doing something specific on date number two then go ahead and make plans in advance (a dinner reservation or tickets). But if you’re more spontaneous and don’t mind going with the flow, then wait to see what your date wants to do.
  2. • Keep it light but stay interested. It could be tempting to ease up on conversation if you think that you know everything there is about a person after one date (or even three), but getting too comfortable will lead nowhere fast! Try not to fall back into old patterns of small talk; try asking deeper questions or revealing something personal about yourself.
  3. • Have fun wherever you go…but make sure he/she knows it’s a second date! You want him/her to feel like they can relax and enjoy their time with you without worrying about whether your intentions are romantic or platonic—it’s a fine line to walk!
  4. Try not to cancel or re-schedule too many times. Once is okay, but that third time might be the last straw. A little spontaneity and unpredictability can go a long way in making you seem like an exciting person with something going on (in addition to dating). But if all of your plans fall through he/she may wonder what they’re putting their faith into—if it means so much for him/her then why don’t you make it more of a priority?
  5. – Don’t expect to get laid on the first date.
  6. – When you’re out, listen more than talk. This is a great way to understand your partner’s interests and passions because people love talking about themselves. Plus it gives them the chance to see if they have any chemistry with you – i.e., mutual interest.
  7. – Be a good date. This means show up on time, dress appropriately and follow appropriate dinner etiquette. Don’t be rude to the wait staff or your date’s friends. Manners are sexy!
  8. – Have fun. If you’re not enjoying yourself, say so and then be honest about why it’s not working for you. It will save both of you some heartache in the long run if there isn’t a match between your personalities or interests.
  9. Prepare some conversation topics that you want to talk about so that you can avoid awkward silences, or worse – silence.
  10. brush your teeth before the date .
  11. look sharp when you head out the door.
  12. wear comfortable shoes for your date.
  13. bring a book in case it rains on your date so that you have something to discuss if there are long periods of silence.
  14. make sure your wardrobe can handle different weather conditions
  15. If you want to bring your date back to your apartment, make sure you have some snacks ready. If you don’t, your date will probably leave shortly after arriving at your place.
  16. Be yourself. If you’re trying too hard to impress your date, it will become obvious. Showing someone who you really are is the best way to get them interested in getting to know more about you.
  17. Don’t interrogate your date when they tell you something interesting during the course of the conversation. A good listener never interferes with someone who is speaking, they just listen.
  18. Make sure you have a good time on your date so that it reflects positively on the future of your relationship. If you don’t have fun now, there will be no chance to have more fun later!
  19. Don’t talk about politics and religion.
  20. Don’t bring up your ex and badmouth them!
  21. If you don’t like the topic of conversation, try to change it as politely as possible so that no feelings are hurt. If need be, excuse yourself for a moment and go to the bathroom before coming back with an entirely different subject than what was being discussed previously.
  22. When you meet your date, try to arrive early so that you won’t be rushing around on the day of your big night together. This way, there will be no last-minute arguments about where to eat or what movie to see!
  23. Don’t get too drunk on a second date because it could send mixed signals.
  24. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to have a successful second date. If you’re not feeling it, don’t force anything!
  25. If your first date was great and you feel like there’s potential for more dates in the future, then wait at least 24 hours before asking them out again. This will give them time to think about whether they’d like to see you again.
  26. Be enthusiastic and be open! Let your date know that you’re excited for the next step in your relationship (if there is one).
  27. Don’t act differently on a second date than you did during the first because it will make them feel uncomfortable, making this entire process more difficult than it needs to be.
  28. Be honest about what you are looking for. If you’re just trying to hook up, your date will probably know that and won’t take the relationship seriously if they aren’t interested in having a purely physical connection with someone else.
  29. Give them space! Don’t text or call too much if you want to keep them interested in seeing you again.
  30. Be honest about what your intentions are and how much time you’re willing to give before expecting anything serious from the other person.
  31. Don’t get into a fight with your date; it will definitely put an end to any future dates that may come up!
  32. If things don’t go well, don’t get upset. There is always a next time!
  33. Make sure your date knows what they are getting into from the beginning so both of you can have an enjoyable experience with no awkwardness or hurt feelings later on down the road.
  34. Don’t put on too much makeup it’s better to be yourself than to look like someone you’re not.
  35. Don’t make any promises that you can’t keep!
  36. If things aren’t going well, don’t be afraid to suggest stopping the date early if your date is not interested in continuing it outside of their comfort zone. It’s better than having them feel uncomfortable or pressured into doing something they don’t want to do.
  37. If you’re having fun on the date, don’t leave it with an awkward kiss goodbye. It will make things difficult later if they feel like something was missing at the end of your second meeting together.
  38. End your second date, when the sparks are still there because people tend to recall the beginning and end the most.
  39. Don’t forget to enjoy yourself on this second date – it’s a chance for you both to get to know one another even better!
  40. Don’t be clingy! If you want them to see you again, give them space and time so it doesn’t feel like an obligation when they do ask for more dates from you. Don’t call or text too much or it will seem like you’re desperate for their attention rather than showing that they are special to you.
  41. Don’t be afraid of rejection because if your date doesn’t want the same thing as you, then this relationship probably isn’t meant to be at all!
  42. Don’t try to force a relationship out of nothing. There needs to be something there before you can pursue anything more serious with this person.
  43. If your first date went well and there is potential for a future relationship, then ask them out again!
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